For children’s education, parents should teach students according to their aptitude. Similarly, for children with high IQ, they should be treated differently. Today, Xiaobian will introduce three common tutoring misunderstandings of smart children.
How to correctly educate children with high IQ
Around us, there are many smart children with advanced intelligence. Many smart children’s parents will spend more effort on educating their children, but they don’t know that the physical and mental development of smart children often leads to imbalance due to some extraordinary intellectual development. This imbalance, if not understood by parents, will not be able to take appropriate measures to maintain the child’s physical and mental health development, but also can not lay a good foundation for the full development of the child’s intellectual advantage. Therefore, to guide the healthy growth of smart children, parents must remove some misunderstandings.
Myth 1: “a good door is a good door”
Some parents believe that the better a child is, the more outstanding he will be in all aspects of intellectual development. For example, if a child’s mathematics is extraordinary, his parents expect him to be extraordinary in reading, painting, dancing, playing and so on.
[expert opinion]: parents with such ideas do not understand that the intellectual development of smart children is unbalanced. Yes. The intelligence of 5-year-old children can reach the level of about 9 years old in one aspect, but they are still close to their actual age in other aspects. If parents ask them to show intellectual excellence in all subjects and activities, they will be exhausted because they can not meet their parents’ expectations. As a result, they will lose more intellectual potential than ordinary children due to psychological pressure.
[countermeasures]: parents should understand the tendency of children’s intellectual development, master the characteristics of children’s intelligence and guide them according to the situation, so that smart children can give full play to their unique intellectual advantages.
Myth 2: “high IQ equals EQ”
Some parents believe that since children have precocious intelligence, they should also be ahead of ordinary children in emotional development. They can’t accept children as naive as ordinary children. For example, they find it strange that while children and adults can easily discuss scientific problems together, they will climb onto their mother’s knees, snuggle up in their mother’s arms and ask their mother to hug and kiss.
[expert opinion]: these parents do not understand that smart children are children first. Their extraordinary intelligence does not mean that their emotional development has become mature. Like ordinary children of the same age, they also have the needs of emotional excitement, exposure and family satisfaction. Children’s emotional development has its own characteristics, which is not directly related to children’s intellectual talent. If parents do not pay attention to meeting children’s emotional needs, children often feel uneasy because their childlike innocence is not understood.
[countermeasures]: parents should understand the characteristics of children’s emotional development, let them show childlike innocence and childlike interest, and give full play to their unique creative talent in an appropriate environment and atmosphere.
Myth 3: “don’t get together with stupid children”
Parents also know that the physical development of smart children is the same as that of ordinary “stupid children”, but there is often such a situation: parents will be very happy when they see smart children talking with older children or intellectual games. When they see them doing sports, playing games and even being with “stupid children” of the same age, they are very angry. They believe that this will affect the early success of extraordinary children.
[expert opinion]: in fact, smart children only develop their intelligence much faster than ordinary children, and their physical development level does not exceed their peers. If parents deprive them of the right to play with children of the same age, it will affect their children’s growth and development and make them lag behind their peers in height, weight, vital capacity and muscle strength. The physical quality of smart children decreases, and the development of brain and intelligence will also be affected.
[countermeasures]: parents should lift the ban on smart children playing games with children of the same age, so that children can exercise their body and develop their brain.
